First things first – I have never heard of positive affirmations before. Okay, so, I know the phrase, but do I know the meaning? Vaguely so, because I can make assumptions by the words I know and putting it together, like, what does “positive” mean, how about “affirmation?” The thing is – I didn’t know the importance of it until I looked it up and realized – oh, it’s like a mantra.
So, I went to Google and searched “positive affirmations” and basically clicked on the first few links before settling on one link to a website. I like this article on prolific.com. (To get to the link, click on article in the previous sentence!)
Here are a few positive affirmations I found and that I like:
- Be mindful. Think. Reflect. Okay – I made this one up. I find myself thinking about how I need to be more mindful, I need to think before I act, and I need to reflect. It’s not exactly positive, in a sense, but it definitely makes me think more on what I’m going to do or say. Doesn’t work all the time – but when I do reflect, I realize that I need to change how I phrase things or how I react.
- I am unique. Simply said – there’s only one of YOU in the entire world!
- I refuse to give up because I haven’t tried all possible ways. — I cannot give up until I have tried every conceivable way. I put these two positive affirmations together because I feel like they’re the same but phrased differently. I like to think that I haven’t given up – I’m going to approach it in a different way at a different time. Like personal projects! Or people and friends!
- I choose to see my family as a gift. Despite everything we’ve gone through – all the fights, arguments, drama, whatever – it all makes up who I am and I cannot be any less thankful about this.
- I take the time to show my friends that I care about them. (Or, rather, I try.) Even I haven’t talked to friends or seen them for years, I want them to know I am still here for them by making conversations every now and then with them.
- I never know what amazing incredible person I will meet next. I may be shy when I meet people but I love meeting people. I like to see how my mind grows on them – like, how I knew them and now I know them and they’re even more amazing than when I first met them.
- Today will be a good day. I love when I wake up in the morning and automatically think this, or when I have a bad day but I keep telling myself: “It’ll get better. It’ll get better.”
- I follow my dreams no matter what. Yes. Yes, yes, yes. I have many dreams but I will achieve them.
- All problems have a solution.
- I press on because I believe in my path. Refer to 8.*
To be honest, I didn’t agree with most of the positive affirmations in this article. When I read the first few paragraphs and the titles, and skimmed through the categories for positive affirmations, I was ecstatic. However, once I delved into reading, with the intention of writing many, if not all, of the positive affirmations I found to my liking, I realized that I only liked 1/10 of the positive affirmations.
I was uneasy, reading it, because most of these positive affirmations isn’t about just loving yourself but believing you don’t need to change and that you are better than you believe – that you are too good for this world.
I know someone like this. She and I were close and despite the lost friendships, the drama and fights she has experienced, she doesn’t think she needs to change at all. She needs to grow but only by incremental amounts because she is better than the people who argue and make drama with her. She is too good for the men who come and go and the people who come and go in her life. I’m not going to deny her amazing personality and ability to bounce up when she falls down but I can’t agree with this mindset. It’s short-changing (or some other term like that), to the point where I believe it’s kind of unhealthy.
Sometimes, change is good. Sometimes, you do, in fact, simply need to grow. You are never too good for anyone or better than anyone, for that matter. But, to each their own.